Wednesday, February 10, 2010

Commitment and Maturity

Driving back these thoughts kept creeping to my mind – what do they mean? Bottom line it is the reason why some people achieve great things and others fail. So often people play at relationships regardless of whether they are business or person. They seek playmates instead of partners and wonder why things do not work.

If life is short should we not?
  • Treat children like children
  • Treat adult like adult
  • Let your yes be your yes
  • Let your no be your no
  • Say what you mean
  • Mean what you say
  • Let your actions match your words
  • Let your words match your actions
  • Respect others
  • Behave in such a way others are required to treat us with respect
  • Make constructive use of our time
  • Not allow others to waste our time and respect the time of others

Let’s look deeper
  • A playmate is someone who entertains you and does what is in their interest at the time because it is fun to them your thoughts and feelings are of little consequence
  • A partner is someone who believes in and compliments you and does what is in your best interest at the time both short and long term because they care about respect and want what is best for you

Which type of people do you surround yourself with?

  • Playmate - A companion in play or recreation (excitement or entertainment)
  • Partner - One that is united or associated with another or others in an activity or a sphere of common interest, especially a business partnership or a spouse

In business people often wrongly believe business people do what they do to take on risk and excitement – while this may be true for some it is largly a misunderstanding – a business person has a vision – a mental image that they are willing to work to make a reality.

How do we fail?

We do not believe people when they tell us who they are – examples:
  • Someone tells you they do not respect you and you keep allowing them to use or take advantage of you
  • Someone steals from you and you allow them back in your business to continue to liberate items at your expense
  • Someone lies to your face to allow them to do so

Personal that can be applied to business
  • Someone tells you they plan to use you and you convince yourself they did not mean it
  • Someone tells you that they will be unfaithful and you dismiss it as a joke
  • Someone tells you they are in love with someone else and you continue to stay with them
  • Someone only comes around when they want something from you
  • Someone curses you out and you allow them to do so repeatedly

So what is commitment?
  • Being true to yourself
  • Knowing that you have value and making sure you are treated with the respect and courtesy you deserve
  • Making statements and sticking to them
  • Respecting your time enough not to waste others nor allow them to waste yours

Quotes on Commitment and Responsibility:
  • I know the price of success: dedication, hard work, and an unremitting devotion to the things you want to see happen - Frank Lloyd Wright
  • I can't imagine a person becoming a success who doesn't give this game of life everything he's got - Walter Cronkite
  • We all have dreams. But in order to make dreams into reality, it takes an awful lot of determination, dedication, self-discipline, and effort - Jesse Owens
  • We are not here merely to make a living. We are here to enrich the world - Woodrow Wilson
  • Whatever happens, take responsibility - Anthony Robbins
  • Whoever renders service to many puts himself in line for greatness - great wealth, great return, great satisfaction, great reputation, and great joy - Jim Rohn
  • Within each of us lies the power of our consent to health and sickness, to riches and poverty, to freedom and to slavery. It is we who control these, and not another - Richard Bach
  • You cannot escape the responsibility of tomorrow by evading it today - Abraham Lincoln
  • Take your life in your own hands, and what happens? A terrible thing: no one to blame - Erica Jong

So here are the real questions:
  1. Can I trust you with my life and livelihood?
  2. Can I believe you when you tell me someone?
  3. Are you willing to sacrifice to achieve your goals?

If you answered no to any of these questions – I would reconsider entering any serious relationship especially if it involves starting business.

Also ask yourself these questions:
  1. What do you want?
  2. Who do you place first?
  3. Who are you (Are you a child seeking a playmate or an adult seeking a partner)?

How many adults do you know who act like this

So what to achieve - here is something to consider

What is the bottom line?
If you are wanting to stay the same - not grow and change then respectfully you are not even committed to yourself so how can you be committed to another person or a business?

Why - because insanity is doing the same things over and over again expecting different results. If you want different results you must do different things!

For far too many a painful negative or unproductive known is better than an unknown even if that unknown is better - why - people confuse comfort with health, growth and change with pain, and allow fear not faith to dictate their lives.

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