The people I call friends are mostly battle tested standing by me when others walked away. Further often they piss me off, not because they are evil rather because they tell me what I need to hear and not what I want to hear!
How do I know? Because they will not benefit regardless, especially if I did what they asked – fact is often by telling me what they did they actually risked loosing a friend if I was the superficial, insecure, egotistical type (not to be confused with hypercritical or manipulative – totally different). Sometimes they commented on my observed behavior – painful to hear yet true.
- Who are your friends?
- How long have you known them?
- How do you quantify then?
- Do/would you trust them with your life?
- If it is true that your friends are your mirrors – what do your mirrors collectively say about you?